June was a quiet month of contemplation and reflection for me and my little family (ok well mostly me). We had a big decision to make at the beginning of the month about what Mabel would be doing come September, and it definitely pushed me to look at certain aspects of our life and really evaluate how things are going and how we can get better at some things . Balancing everyone’s needs in a family of five takes a lot of constant hard work and a lot of listening to each other and I’m making mistakes and learning everyday. The middle of the year seems like a good time for evaluation for some reason, and being six months into our life as parents of three felt like a bit of a milestone and a chance to have a little breather and take stock.
I have been having a bit of a break from blogging and you’ve probably noticed I was quiet on Instagram, Facebook and Twitter too for a lot of June. It was definitely the right decision to take a step back for a while and it has been a brilliant opportunity to really think about why I’m blogging, what I want to get out of it and what kind of things I want to share with the world (ok 20 people, but potentially the whole world!). And it’s also given me the time and space to really focus on me and my parenting, trying to feel good about myself and be the best Mum I can be.
In June I have come back to my gentle parenting roots, not that I ever lost them completely but I feel like I had drifted away slightly. I’ve always tried to parent with as much empathy and respect for my little people as possible, but recently I’ve been making a big effort to really consider things from their point of view, especially with my beautiful and very clever but feisty Mabel. Attachment parenting a baby always came naturally to me, I didn’t have to think about what was the best thing to do because my instincts were strong and I let them drive all my decisions and in a way babies are simple creatures, cuddles and boobs can solve most of their problems. The older my children get, the more challenging I find it knowing how to respond to them and guide them, especially when dealing with difficult behaviour. But I have tried really hard to tune into my instincts recently and in doing so have rediscovered my passion for positive, empathetic, gentle parenting and I’ve realised that it’s something that’s really important to me and something that I want to share with you more on this blog.
During my ‘break’ from blogging, despite considering jacking it all in (for about a day), I couldn’t actually stop myself from writing. I’ve gone back to using blogging as therapy and it has helped me so much in organising my thoughts and working through certain issues that I’ve been having. I’m a talker you see, It’s how I’ve always got through my problems, but as a stay at home mum, it’s become a bit tricky to find people who don’t mind listening while I go over and over the same thing and talk myself round in a circle for hours on end. Writing it all down is a better option, not least for poor old Carl!
It’s not the most efficient way of working I’ll be honest, to start a blog post with a question mark over where exactly I’m going with it… It takes me forever to write posts like that so don’t expect to get them to often, but hopefully you will start seeing more on here soon than just my weekly This Little Big Life posts.
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