On Monday I attended a mini online workshop with Michelle Reeves to help me find my one word to guide and inspire me in 2017. At the beginning of a New Year I always think a lot about what I want the themes of the year to be, how do I want to be feeling when I sit and reflect at the end of December 2017 and what are the biggest priorities in our life going to be this year? Choosing one word kind of links all of these things together and gives me a focus point. Something to build everything else around. You know I love a mantra and a positive affirmation and this is kind of along the same lines. The idea is to put your word up somewhere prominent where you can see it regularly and keep it in mind as much as possible as you go through your days.
So it’s got to be a good word right? No pressure, just my happiness and success for an entire year riding on this one word…
There are a lot of words in the English language to choose from and I am a ridiculously indecisive person so I was expecting this to take a long, long time. But actually one word jumped out at me right away and the more I thought about it the more it made sense. So without any more faffing around, my word for 2017 will be…
Now I can’t think why this one jumped out at me over all the other words can you…? Of course I have my three lovely children to nurture, and to be honest sometimes I could do with a reminder that my role is to nurture, not to eye roll and make sarcastic remarks while cleaning up messes. But the reason I’ve chosen nurture as my one word for 2017 is I want to apply that same nurturing mindset that I have with raising my children, to other areas in my life… to myself.
‘To care for and protect (someone or something) while they are growing.’
While they are growing, that’s the bit I like the most I think. Because aren’t we all growing, all of the time? And shouldn’t we give ourselves that care and protection while we grow? I’m growing. I’m growing into my role as a Mother, a Home Educator, a Wife, a member of the community. I’m striving to be better and I’m trying to change and I’m doing the best I can every single day. So instead of putting demands on myself, or setting myself targets or choosing a word like ‘reach’ or ‘achieve’and pushing myself to hit goals…. instead I’m going to care for myself and I’m going to protect myself.
Because nurture to me, means doing good things for someone, and not expecting anything back. Not eating healthily and exercising because I want to loose weight and look a certain way but because it’s good for me and it makes me feel better, not taking photos because I need something to post on Instagram but because I enjoy being creative. In other words, focus on the process and not the product. So this year, that’s what I’m going to concentrate on, nurturing myself, nurturing my family, my relationships, my home, my creativity, all the things that I love and are important to me. And I’m going to try my very hardest not to expect immediate results from any of them, but to remember that they are all growing and changing and evolving every day and it’s all a work in progress. I’ve been known to be a bit of an impatient person, to be overly critical of myself and to give up on things if they aren’t perfect straight away. This year I really need to break those old habits of expecting to much of myself and then being upset when I don’t live up to the unrealistically high bar that I’ve set myself. I learnt last year that it doesn’t matter how amazing my ideas are, how meticulous my plans are or even how well I execute them, if I don’t look after myself then I’m going to burn out and if I burn out, the whole thing falls to pieces.
So although I have some big goals for 2017, and there’s going to be a fair bit of being brave and stepping outside of my comfort zone, the one word that I want to guide me is nurture. If something doesn’t nurture me or someone/something I love, then why am I doing it?
Talking of goals, I made a video for my YouTube channel about our family goals for 2017 or basically, the four main things that I want to concentrate on this year.
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