In my life these days, pretty much everything is up for negotiation. From what I eat (‘ok Mummy, I will eat my peas only if I can have some of your fish cake’), to where I go (‘come on Greta, if you come to the shop with me we can go to the park afterwards?’), even what mindless rubbish I infect my brain with (‘right 1 more Peppa Pig guys and then Mummy’s watching Jeremy Kyle’).
I’m pretty proud of the negotiation skills I’ve developed actually. I’m almost certain that if I were ever in a hostage situation, I would make it out alive with a kiss on the cheek and an apology, because surely there’s nothing harder in this world than trying to convince a toddler to wear wellies and a coat, when they want to wear sunglasses and sandals. Compromise is the name of the game right? You’ve got to give a little to get a little as the old saying goes.
Example: ‘Of course you can wear those sunglasses and that sun hat darling, as long as the rest of your outfit is weather appropriate I really don’t mind’.
Negotiation, every parent is an expert at it.
So when Laura, over at Dear Bear and Beany, tagged me to write my list of non-negotiables, things that make me happy, that are all about me, and that I will not budge on, I thought hmmm I’m not sure I have any? Should I have some? So I hopped over to Pouting in Heels and read Kate’s original post that started it all and discovered, hell yeah I should! It’s all about making yourself a priority and finding the time for things that are important to you. And I realised that I do have some non-negotiables, mine are really small simple things, because let’s face it, I don’t have loads of time for myself. But I do have a list of little things that I always have to do and make my world a better place. So here they are……
A morning cup of tea
I know, its ridiculous but I have to have a cup of tea in the morning before I do anything else. It might be the only one I get to drink while it’s hot that day and extra bonus, it’s usually made for me by Carl, so I don’t even have to get out of bed to get my cuppa, he’s a good ‘un.
Writing my Blog
This is the one that’s hardest to find the time for but I love writing a new post and I love reading and replying to your comments, it makes me happy, so it’s a priority. It can’t be non-negotiable every single day because you know, kids, but most evenings I like to do a bit of writing. It helps me to feel in touch with the outside world, because being at home with the kids can be a bit isolating sometimes, and it pleases the creative side of my brain.
I love catching up with what all my favourite bloggers have been up to. I’m constantly inspired, moved and amazed at the brilliant posts I read every day. It’s not too hard to quickly read posts on my phone, usually while I’m feeding Ernie, and it’s much better than scrolling Facebook, which is what I used to do before I discovered blogs!
Last year I was pregnant and we were buying/selling our house for most of it which was stressful, so we ended up not doing an awful lot at the weekends which was sad. This year I decided we are going to have more adventures. Every weekend I make sure we go out somewhere either for the day or half a day or even if it’s just for a couple of hours it’s better than nothing. The more kids you have the harder it is to leave the house, and sometimes I’m tempted to say just forget it. But we always have such a good time when we do manage to get wherever we are going, so I’ve made it non-negotiable.
Watching TV with Carl
I’m a very simple soul, and it doesn’t take much to make me happy. All I want for an evening is a sofa, my Husband and the latest episode of Casualty. We love casualty, we also love a crime drama, the odd documentary when we’re feeling intellectual (Ha!). I know it’s not very exciting, it would sound better if I said we spend our evenings listening to obscure bands, playing board games and reading each other poetry, but we’re a lot more boring than that. I have no shame in admitting that we like to spend our time together trying to work who’s responsible for the latest Oxford murder before Lewis and Hathaway do. I guess we all turn into our parents eventually.
And that’s it for the moment. Terribly boring now I look at them! I’m sure I’ll add to it over time. When Ernie is a bit older I want to start running again, and when I do I’ll be making it non-negotiable for sure.
So what about you? Do you have a happiness non-negotiables list? Are you going to make one?
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