Our Giant Family Bed | The Ordinary Moments

Ever since we first became parents nearly five years ago, we’ve always had a family bed, whether we wanted to or not. Our babies have all been happiest snuggled up next to us at night time, breastfeeding is just so much easier when you don’t even have to sit up to do it, and even as they’ve got bigger there’s usually at least one of them that wants to spend part of the night in our bed. It’s not something that I want to fight against, if there’s one thing that I can do without in my life it’s parenting battles right? I’m happy as long as everyone is getting enough sleep and for us, bed sharing seems to be the easiest way for that to happen.
Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

The only times that it’s been a bit of a problem is when we’ve had babies that are feeding through the night. It would always seem to happen that I would have just settled Ernie back to sleep and one of the girls would then crawl in and wrap herself around me, making it difficult for me to fall asleep. Or when Greta was born and Mabel was a toddler, she would wake up and come in, see her sister was awake and decide it was play time, squealing ‘Baby! Baby!’. It’s meant that Carl and I have spent many many nights sleeping in separate rooms, usually me in our bed with one or two kids and him either squashed up into a toddler bed or on the sofa with the other.

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

It wasn’t ideal at all, but when you have three children in under four years, you kind of just have to cope whatever way you can and know that it’s only for the short term. We’ve tried different bedtime routines, different combinations of sleeping arrangements, but what it boils down to is that our kids like sleeping close to us, and in the middle of the night you will just sleep wherever you need to if it means everyone will go back to bed. If lying next to my children while they sleep will make them feel safe, then I am perfectly happy to do that for as long as they need me to.

Now that Ernie’s not breastfeeding any more, things are a bit easier. He still wakes up overnight don’t get me wrong it’s a complete myth that breastfeeding causes night wakings, but he at least goes back to sleep quicker and easier these days. The kids all start off the night in their own beds, but if they wake up in the night then they will usually appear at the side of ours wanting to crawl in and go back to sleep.

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

Now that’s no problem with me, usually we all fall straight back to sleep and it’s no big deal. But when it happened to be all three children wanting to climb in on the same night, well our old faithful standard double bed just wasn’t cutting it and even the cot we had attached to the side just wasn’t working anymore. We were spending half the night ferrying sleeping children back to their own bed because another one had woken up and needed their spot in our bed! So we’ve upgraded to a superking. And it’s 180cm across of pure bliss. Sometimes, kids get in bed with us and I don’t even realise they’re there until the morning, that’s how much space there is.

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

A couple of days ago we had the first morning when all five of us woke up in the family bed together and it was so nice to actually have the space to be able to do that without anyone being grumpy because they’re being pushed out or someone’s laying on their arm. It takes up a lot of space in the room but one of the best things about living in an old Victorian house is having a big master bedroom with a bay window so we’re not cramped at all. We’re still in the middle of decorating our bedroom and I was going to wait until it was all finished to share it on here but then I thought why wait for perfect eh? This is happening now and I want to share it now.

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

Yesterday morning the kids were bouncing and rolling all over the bed. I took these photos and when I looked at them I thought…

‘Well, you don’t get much more perfect than that!’

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

So I thought I would share how a family bed works for us and our philosophy which is –

If you keep getting woken up by your kids coming into bed with you at night…

Just buy a bigger family bed!

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed Cosleeping bed sharing in a superking family bed

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  1. February 19, 2017 / 8:21 am

    We got a superking a few months back and it’s changed my LIFE! However, when I’ve stayed away and the beds are anything smaller it feels so weird so I’ve definitely been spoiled!! #theordinarymoments
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  2. February 19, 2017 / 8:40 am

    I love these pictures!! I love that you all sleep together at times. I definitely struggle to sleep when I have my girls in bed with me. They like to snuggle whilst I need my space – maybe a new bigger bed is the answer. Although I’m not sure my husband will be too keen on the idea! #ordinarymoments
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  3. February 19, 2017 / 12:40 pm

    Such lovely photos. I used to cosleep with Evie when she was a baby but thank goodness she’s happy to sleep in her own bed now because she’s like an octopus to sleep next to! x
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  4. February 19, 2017 / 7:41 pm

    That last photo, so so beautiful. This is lovely and it must feel amazing all waking up together on a morning. I didn’t co sleep with my girls as babies, bar in the early hours of the morning with my youngest daughter, but we co slept for nine months with my boy. I absolutely loved every second even though I was exhausted. xx

  5. February 19, 2017 / 7:50 pm

    Superking for me is by far the best purchase I have made – and there’s only 3 of us! I love not being woken up by the hubster, or J for that matter and it makes me feel like I am on my own in bed – which I adore haha #TheOrdinaryMoments
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  6. February 19, 2017 / 10:05 pm

    I have a king and it feels small when everyone wants to “snuggle”! I love this and how chilled you are about it, its lovely. Beautiful family and nothing like family sleepovers haha x #ordinarymoments

  7. February 20, 2017 / 10:10 am

    I love this post. The children come into bed with us every morning and we love that time together – having cuddles, watching TV, reading books. It’s my favourite time of the day and although we don’t get woken in the night any more and I’m no longer breastfeeding I know that this morning routine has stemmed from that time, years ago. We have a family bed too and I didn’t even realise it until now 🙂 x
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  8. February 20, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    These are lovely photos!! This bed sounds good and definitely worth getting for you guys. Amelia sometimes comes in with me and I don’t notice in a double as it’s just us hehe!
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  9. February 20, 2017 / 7:47 pm

    When I first found out I was pregnant that’s the first thing we bought was a superking. It’s the very best purchase ever. I was worried that if I did I would have feet and hands in my mouth in the middle of the night. Turns out we love story time and playing on the bed together as a family but neither of my kids have slept in it. lol This is so cute. #ordinarymoments
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  10. February 20, 2017 / 8:54 pm

    Such cute photos! so nice that you are now getting a littlest more room and waking up with them all must be lovely. We have never co slept and the girls never even ever get out of bed – just shout! It wasn’t conscious choice necessarily but it never ever worked for them or us x
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  11. February 20, 2017 / 11:01 pm

    These pictures are so lovely! Love the post too 🙂 I think We need a bigger bed too. Iris is in her cosleeper at the moment but dont think it will she’ll ever be ready to leave our bed… or will i never be ready?

  12. February 22, 2017 / 11:51 pm

    How lovely to have the space for a superking bed and enjoy having a family bed. We have a king size but there’s definitely not enough room for anything bigger. We often end up having all four of us in the bed by the morning and it can be a squash at times but I wouldn’t change it for the world. Love your photos – having those family snuggles in bed is just wonderful 🙂

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