Mantras for Motherhood is my new blog series, where I talk about the little quotes and phrases that get me through life as a mum to three little ones, get me focussing on the good stuff and keep mama guilt at bay as much as possible. I love a motivational quote on a Monday morning, facebook and Instagram are full of them, but to be honest most of the offerings that float around my timeline don’t really apply to my life… it’s hard to get ‘fired up’ about ‘smashing my goals’ or ‘reaching my dreams’ when my goal is just to get everyone dressed so we can go to the shop and get milk, and my dream is to get to bedtime without any major calamities… shoot for the moon indeed.
So I’ve been saving little quotes that really do help whenever I find them, and they have evolved into six mantras that I look at most days and even better than that, if I’m having a crappy day, if I’m stressing over something or feeling like a rubbish mum, I can usually find a mantra that will help me out and give me some perspective on the situation.
Every Monday morning for the next few weeks, I will be introducing you to one of my mantras and what it means to me. Some of them I have done a facebook live chat about, so I will put the video in where I can, and even better than that… I have made you a printable version of my mantra cards for you to print off and use at home if you want to! Just click HERE to find all the posts in the series, and the link to your free printable download.
So, onto today’s mantra… This one is really important to me, I don’t know if I’m alone in this but sometimes I find myself feeling well, just not really as happy as I would like. And I think to myself ‘Come on, this is what you wanted! You have an amazing husband, lovely house, three great kids that you get to stay at home with’… and yet still at times it can all feel a bit ‘meh’. And it’s usually because I need to….
Seems obvious right? Do more of the things that make you happy and you’ll be happier! Well it is but…. I still need a regular reminder. Sometimes I just get so caught up in the day-to-day grind and worrying about all the things that I think I should be doing, that I forget to make time for the things that I want to do.
We all know that there are things that need to get done that we don’t necessarily enjoy, but they just need doing…. loading the dishwasher, washing my children’s hair (and getting soaked in the process), reading The Gruffalo for the 1627th time (I love you Julia Donaldson but I have had enough of that book now)…. etc. etc. But that’s not really what I got into this motherhood thing for.
And sometimes, all that crap can get you down. When you have to pick up every toy that your kids own (that’s a lot, I have no idea how they have so much) EVERY. SINGLE. NIGHT. before you can sit down and have a rest. When you’ve just hoovered and then somebody chucks rice crispies all over the floor. When you’ve finally got the baby to sleep and then the toddler comes upstairs to tell you she’s had a little accident with the milk on the sofa… and he wakes up. When you feel like you have a million and one things you need to do and no one is cooperating and you’re so tired you have no energy…. That’s when this mantra helps me.
Do more of what makes you happy
Stop and do something fun – have a tickle fight with the kids, bake a cake, call a friend for a gossip, watch a YouTube video on your phone, read a blog post, bounce on the trampoline, blow raspberries on the baby’s belly, put the radio on and dance around the kitchen, chuck the kids in the car and drive to the beach…. just do something, anything that brings you joy. What do you love about motherhood? What bits do you truly enjoy? Do that.
Because I’m not saying that if you have a little dance, suddenly you wont care about the mess your kids just made with the paint in the hallway and you’ll be whistling while you clean it up. Nobody ever said you would enjoy every second of every day. But I promise that everything will seem just a little bit less shit if you do more things that make you happy.
It’s ok to ignore the mess and the piles of washing, head out to see a friend and say ‘I’ll deal with that after we’ve had our fun for the day’. Don’t get bogged down in the crap, do more of what makes you happy.
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